Let’s say you’re walking along this winding path, and the path narrows to pass between two cliffs.
Blocking the path is a fairy/troll/genie/wizard, and he and/or she offers you passage.
But to pass you have to select one of two things to carry with you.
The first is a really large, heavy, ugly, dirty rock
The other is a basket full of good things
This seems like a stupid question, I mean, Chuh! but which one would you carry?
and which one were you carrying up until about two minutes ago when you realized how absolutely ridiculous it was?
You can’t hold on to all the crap, and happiness, at the same time.