Agreements, Rules, Whatever; Seem like good ideas

Be impeccable with your words.

  • Speak with integrity.
  • Don’t speak against yourself or others in gossip.

Don’t take anything personally.

  • Nothing others do is because of you*
    • What they do is a projection of their own reality, their own imagination.
    • What others think of you is not only out of your control, it’s none of your business.
  • When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you will no longer suffer needlessly.

Don’t make assumptions (or force others to do so).

  • Find the courage to ask questions, and to express what you really want.
  • Communicate as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and/or drama.

Always do your best.

  • And recognize that what that is might change from moment to moment.

Make peace with your past (so it doesn’t spoil your present).

Time heals almost everything, especially if you let it.

No one is the reason for or has the responsibility of your happiness. Just you.

Don’t compare your life with others.

  • You don’t actually know much of anything about anyone else’s anyway. Chances are, if you threw everyone’s problems in a pile, you’d take yours back in a heartbeat.

Don’t think too much.

  • Sometimes you won’t know the answer, sometimes there isn’t one, hasn’t been one, never will be one.
  • Accept, move on.

At least once a day, look directly into your own eyes in the mirror, and smile. Really smile. You are a beautiful person, “in all your cracked perfection.”(1) (Remember about the cracks — “that’s how the light gets in.”(2))


*I think this is the most important one to remember, even though at first you might think, Yuh-huh!

(1) Clementine von Radics “Mouthful of Forevers”

(2) Leonard Cohen “Anthem”


3 thoughts on “Agreements, Rules, Whatever; Seem like good ideas

  1. Not sure if I can post here…tried yesterday and failed 😦 Maybe it was just the 10-year old computer I have to work with at home.

    I do like this post. I’m impressed with how you can say a lot in not many words. I’m thinking I will use this as a focus for the forthcoming period of Lent. I’m not a ‘religious’ person, but I can see the sense of having a disciplined time of reflection and introspection. I think I might read this post each of the days of Lent and then spend some time reflecting on how well I’m living out those ideals.

    • Seems to be working now.

      Glad the post was meaningful to you.

      The hardest one for me is the one I *-d. Hard for me to let stuff go, even knowing that it is about the other person, not me, it still impacts me and my life, so I get caught in this loop I don’t want to be in.


      All a work in progress I guess.

  2. Pingback: private Lenten reflection | darkness overcomes you . . .

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